There’s so much to just randomly observe and comment from a fresh perspective. I never want to stop looking with these eyes.
~See Lemons Just Live
Random Observation/Comment #547: Life is a multi-player game.
Challenge Set Up
Complete a different action every weekday for as many days as possible. I posted these on FB as Actions of the Day (AotD) and encourage others to complete the action as well.
Why This Challenge?
Before I learned about micro-resolutions and the you-app, I felt a little slump in my routine – it was like I wasn’t completing anything important for the day. Progress felt slow and also insignificant. I think I was working so closely towards a larger goal that I forgot about all the fun smaller goals along the way. Each day, I wrote a simple action that I could complete and looked to maintain these smaller actions throughout my regular schedule.
- AotD #1: Take 5 minutes and stretch – I was able to continue doing this throughout the week
- AotD #2: Plan 3 things you will get done today and Visualize them being done. Make these tasks realistic.
- AotD #3: Plan a trip you can take in one month
- AotD #4: Read up about a cool new technology topic – I suggest blockchain
- AotD #5: Take a photo with a friend
- AotD #6: Find 3 things in common with a stranger at your next networking event
- AotD #7: Write a journal entry with 3 things you loved about the day
- AotD #8: Take a different commute route to work
- AotD #9: it’s getting cold out. Donate those clothes you don’t wear anymore
- AotD #10: Find a new place to eat for lunch. I suggest Frank’s bbq.
- AotD #11: Contact someone you haven’t spoken to in 3 months
- AotD #12: Write down your Most Important Things. What is this?
- AotD #13: Listen to a new podcast during your commute to work
- AotD #14: Try a new scotch (if you’re into that type of thing)
- AotD #15: Cancel your plans (take a sick day or don’t go to that networking event). You’ve been doing great and need to focus on decompressing today.
- AotD #16: Send a postcard to someone
- AotD #17: Buy your parents a gift and send it to them with a note.
- AotD #18: Share one of your friend’s accomplishments.
- AotD #19: Write a recap and reflection of 2015.
- AotD #21: Don’t eat meat today. Why? It’s good to take a break.
- AotD #20: if you haven’t already, call your parents and tell them you love them
- AotD #22: Learn a new vocabulary word and use it as much as you can in conversation.
- AotD #23: Find out what you can organize in your apartment/house and do it. I threw out all my mismatched socks.
- AotD #24: Write down all the things that stress you out. What’s on your mind and what can you do about them?
- AotD #25: Update your wish list. This is a list of purchases or goals that you’re aiming towards. Maybe you’re saving money to get that new coat or vacation days for that upcoming trip.
- AotD #26: Unsubscribe to email lists you wind up just archiving. If you haven’t opened and learning from one in the past 2 weeks, you don’t need it.
- AotD #27: Surprise your significant other with an experiential gift. This could be a massage or dinner out.
- AotD #28: Plan your 2016 new years resolutions (and how you’ll keep them)
- AotD #29: Write a thank you letter/card to someone at work or at home.
- AotD #30: Write down all the promises you made and try to keep them
- AotD #31: Make a happiness jar and place those Random happy thoughts in there daily. Try to make it a physical jar with handwritten notes. Good memories take 40 seconds to imprint into long term smiles.
- AotD #32: Think about death and being more present. What really matters to you and what micro decisions do you make about time management?
- AotD #33: Plan a curriculum for your self improvement.
- AotD #34: Find a reason to give a high five today and give one to someone. High five!
- AotD #35: Listen to your favorite song. Why is it your favorite? What made it your favorite? When did you last hear it?
- AotD #36: Make plans with someone and actually keep them. See you at spin at noon, tt addicts.
- AotD #37: Sing a song in the shower. Maybe it’s your favorite song. Hopefully it’s bohemian rhapsody.
- AotD #38: Don’t bring your headphones today. Look around and observe.
- AotD #39: Ask for help from a friend. It’s better to be clear about what you’re looking to accomplish and then complete it together #cocreate
- AotD #40: Tweak your routine with experiments. Move all the essentials you need to leave in one place (wallet, keys, metrocard, hat, gloves, backpack, etc) within 5 feet of each other.
- AotD #41: Check up on those new years resolutions. Are you closer with creating positive habits?
- AotD #42: Introduce some spontaneity and randomness to look for improvements in efficiency.
- AotD #43: Learn deeper about your most passionate subject. Befriend someone who also shares this passion.
- AotD #44: Simplify your fashion style. Remove the number of clothing permutations and focus on outfits for occasion.
- AotD #45: Don’t just be a spectator, be a participant. If you ask, your help is usually welcomed.
- AotD #46: Write your new micro resolutions for a new month.
- AotD #47: Take a nap and start over. The day can always restart.
- AotD #48: Fight for your right to party
- AotD #49: Don’t be the first to complain about anything today. You are the still pond reflecting positive energy.
- AotD #50: Ask a silly question. “Why did they make a highway to the danger zone?”
- AotD #51: Fold origami. It’s really relaxing.
The challenge ended arbitrarily, but it has not been forgotten. I think I liked the Questions of the Day a little bit better because it encouraged more interaction and a simpler response. In the long run, I do feel like there have been some great habits that formed from reflecting on my vision of success for the day. The small actions truly do make big changes.
~See Lemons Stay Active
Random Observation/Comment #544: I miss nap time. Grown ups need to take nap time more seriously.
Why this list?
In the process of “growing up” and “finding your way”, a lot of the great habits that primary school teaches you tends to go unnoticed (and in some cases completely unlearned). Unfortunately, you don’t have a guidance counselor or home room teacher after you leave the nest. There aren’t set times where you sit down and work on something important to your growth. Instead? You cram everything into one notebook, read the news for conversation fodder, watch Netflix way too much, and drink constantly. When left to our own vices, do we all stray from productivity?
How to write this list:
Take a trip through memory lane and remember how simple life was without bills and instant gratification in your pocket. What were your goals? What did you do? How did the structure help? For example, I used to color-code my binders and create separate sections in a very organized way. Now? One notebook with chicken scratch short hand. It took some time to make the connection of these good habits to reality, but once you do, everything runs slightly more smoothly.
- Content organization – 3 ring binders with color coded separations of subjects
- Fairly structured categories of subjects that we should learn to be well-rounded
- Legible handwriting with handwriting practice
- A focus on at most 7 subjects per 3 months
- Spring and Winter recesses with summers off (time to unwind)
- Planned learning objectives by end of 3 months
- Scheduled time per day to work on core courses
- Scheduled time to work out with peers (yay gym class)
- Scheduled time to get some fresh air and just run around to let that energy out
- Scheduled time with experts in the field (at least they’ve taught this class more than once)
- Scheduled learning environment with peers
- Scheduled homework reinforcement to test knowledge of given material
- After school activities that gather like-minded people
- A balanced diet across the week (I currently eat breakfast every meal and want to eat tacos all the time)
- Opportunities for leadership roles
- Realistic enforcement of rules and guidelines without terrible consequences
- Timeboxed projects with presentations to parents at the end so they can be proud of your work and stay involved with your growth
- Networking opportunity with those who have taken similar subjects
- Opportunities/Forced to socialize with peers in a cafeteria (e.g. no eating at your desk with your work!)
- Freedom to set up your own curriculum of classes and get the “best schedule” (this was more from high school when I had 3 periods off in a row during lunch) – why don’t people do this more now?
- Nap time (from kindergarten and 12th grade)
- Book reports and reading challenges (I remember reading more frequently to get those 50 books in one year)
- Analysis of current events
- Mandatory music, art, and language classes
- Constant movement and travel between classes – I think some people in a 9 to 5 sit in front of monitors for too long
- Healthy amount of group assignments
- A looming consequence of actions and surveillance of behavior – Always being graded (yay gold stars!)
- Encouragement to ask questions and raise hands before speaking
- Playfulness even with most seriousness
- No meetings
~See Lemons Miss School Organization
Random Observation/Comment #543: Being a local to me means being in a loving community.
The TT Addicts gathered at the usual happy hour Friday night for some competitive exercise and $4 beers. Harpoon IPAs, Radeburgers, Heffeweisens, Heineken lights, and beer with Sprite flowed generously for hours. Our drink preferences were acknowledged with eye contact, a head nod, and a huge smile. Chit chat with the bartenders and waitresses livened the atmosphere while trash talk about the upcoming TT matches were snuck in there whenever possible.
It was around beer 3 when we all felt that same feeling that can only be embodied by the love of the game, the love of the establishment, and the love of our friends. Five years of seeing Spin change from the casual orange and teal to the sleek gold and black. Five years of secret TT training to get the perfect backhand banana flip. Five years of growing closer to the awesome staff, coaches, and regulars. We have truly found our Cheers.
Table tennis is the perfect mix of mental analysis, personal development, physical exercise, and socialization (and alcohol). I am addicted and it is truly a part of my life – so much so that I even added it to my vows. However, the love of the sport is not the only reason I keep returning specifically to Spin. I go for the activity… I stay because of the family.
Remember: If you want to go far, Go Together.
Also: It’s better to do it together than it is to do it alone.
~See Lemons Love Spin
Random Observation/Comment #542: Breaking out of bad habits is hard, but not impossible.
Why This List?
Little actions can make big changes. This is true for all positive and negative aspects of life. You didn’t just wake up overweight – it was probably a string of inactive months and holiday parties that crept up over time. If you want to improve, then realize these little actions can reverse those bad habits and develop a solid platform strategy.
As explained in the previous blog post, we must put in the effort to form autopilot habits and resilient sub routines that keep you from burning out at the end of the day. Willpower should be saved for the important things. Be in a state of mindful constant improvement and form a platform that breeds this style.
A good resolution has a few properties:
- It focuses on small behavioral changes
- The change is easy (you think it can be done and you have no excuse not to do it)
- The change is limited (it’s not a blanket statement of exercising everyday)
- It focuses on actions – what can you do? – not what result do you want
- The change is specific and measurable
How to Write this List
First, take a look at these categories of micro-resolutions to spark some ideas. Next, reverse engineer your behaviors throughout the day and really find the pain point little habits you can change to improve any of those points. This could be reshuffling the order of tasks, using better resources, or setting up different stop points.
Here are a few of my micro-resolutions:
- #MeatlessMondays – don’t order meat foods
- Sit down lunch Thursdays – to reduce eating food at a desk for every meal, sit down at a restaurant or in the park and enjoy lunch on Thursdays
- Coffee Chat Fridays – have coffee with someone on Friday and don’t talk about work
- Dinners at home should be eaten at the table and on a plate
- Say “no” to the first beer at Spin / or / No happy hour beer before 6PM on weekdays
- Store the phone, wallet, keys, headphones, and scarfs in one location for easy access when leaving in the morning (e.g. adjust habit to place these items in this area when I first get home)
- Remove all notifications from social media applications on phone
- Do not look at phone when walking in the morning (e.g. walk from apartment to subway and subway to desk) – increase awareness and also pay attention more to traffic
- Do not look at work email before 9AM at desk – instead, map out your micro-accomplishments for the day
- No more than 15 minutes of device use in the bedroom on weekdays / Write in a physical journal instead or sketch an idea
- Pay attention to what you can compliment about someone (a stranger or significant other). Tell them (or don’t, but telling them is much better).
- Look at your list of tasks and find what you can delegate once a week
- Make small talk (< 5 min) with someone different in your team every day. Ask them how they are and do less of the talking.
- Give credit to someone for a job well done. Send an email or spread a good rumor.
- Look on slideshare once a week for inspiration on infographics and presentation styles
- Do some type of physical activity (that builds up a sweat) at least once every 3 days
- Before getting out of bed, sit up, straighten your back, and take 3 deep breaths
- Write down the thing that lead to a good laugh or happy moment. Create a happiness jar for this (blogpost of this to come)!
- Share something useful with your community in the morning
- Before you buy something, also think about what you can sell/replace with this new item
- Instead of buying coffee in the morning, brew some from home or alternatively drink tea
- Set-up 5 minute breaks in your calendar (3x a day) to get up and go drink some water
- Do not watch more than 3 episodes of anything in a row (reduce binge watching or balance it with something productive)
- Join at least 2 conference calls a week at least 2 minutes early and use that time to chat with anyone else on the call early
- Remove 1 thing from a to do list for every 2 things you put on (I tend to add too many things on my to do list)
- Brush teeth before 10PM as to reduce late night eating
- Kiss your significant other when you see her for the first time at night
- Eat a piece of fruit for dessert instead of cake
- Try to answer with a joke instead of a judgment (find out what you can smile about in a bad situation)
- Come up with a new list of 30 or write 30 items in a list once a week (Try to do at least 2 lists a month)
~See Lemons Further Resolved
Random Observation/Comment #540: Filtering through every corner of your apartment is always a walk down memory lane.
Continuing my series of “grown up stuff,” we’ve made the move to a slightly larger space with a bedroom door. While filtering through all the things we’ve accumulated, we developed a few strategies and learned a lot more about our relationship. Some of these are also lifted from watching HGTV and Tiny House.
Start with Decluttering
You don’t have to be moving to do this. We all have way too many things and the easiest way to determine what to get rid of comes with two questions :
- Do you still use this item? (functional)
- Does this item mean something to me? (emotional) – Vinessa is a big Marie Kondo fan and she phrases it as “Does this item bring you joy?”
If your answer is “no” to either of these, then you probably don’t need it.
From all my travel, this is a big consideration. If it is specifically memorabilia of sorts (e.g. ticket stub from a first date or trip tchotchke (woah, it’s spelled like this)), limit it to one thing from the trip and think of ways to make an emotional item also functional. When all else fails, digitize it. In future trips, try postcards – they’re thin and don’t take up a lot of space. There was an episode of Tiny House where a travel couple bought blankets from different countries and they turned all the blankets into pillow covers (browse Pinterest for ideas).
Digitize your documents (with camscanner)
You can also buy a scanner, “test out” a large scanner with a feed top and return it afterwards, or borrow one. I also somehow amassed a large number of floating receipts. Has there ever been a case where I needed to prove I bought a doughnut? We decided going forward that we’ll go through the receipt pile at the end of month in budget review. In Clean House, there was also advice to digitize any memories for scrap-booking (this is another post all together).
Go Green and Paperless
It’s not just good enough to remove historical junk, but also ensure that you don’t have to do this exercise again 6 months later. I originally thought of this for physical mail, but this also applies to books. While I do like the feeling of turning pages and smell of old paper, books are freaking heavy. If you haven’t read that physical book in the past 2 years, then you can probably donate it. Also, I want an “unsubscribe” to my physical mail.
Donate What you Don’t Need
I like getting new phones every 18 months or so, but we had 7 old phones, 3 laptops (1 running Windows 98), and 10 USB keys. We wound up clearing all the data on these and then donating them.
Plan Ahead for the New Space
Even if you’re moving into a bigger space, it’s always a good idea to pare down large furniture. In our case, we really envisioned our new color scheme and core pieces that make our place still feel like home. For me, it’s that Japanese room divider in the corner of the top pic – I love the painting and the color palette. From there, we picked the items we wanted to keep and the ones we thought would probably just buy from Ikea.
When you’re at your new place, I highly recommend measuring everything – Heights of counters and little nooks by the corners. These will definitely come in handy. We created a few online home design models, but I feel drawing on paper and possibly cutting out drawings of furniture is a better method.
Planning for the Move
Packing is definitely not easy and it’s best done in batches. Before you start, however, you should consider:
- Who’s helping you move? – if professional, you’ll need to box everything
- What are the biggest items you’re moving? – this determines the moving vehicle specs; smaller cars should probably use small to medium boxes with lots of tote bags
- Approximately how many boxes do you think you’ll need? – Studio needs around 20 boxes or so (you will almost always underestimate)
- Are there restrictions to your new building for move-in? – you may not want big boxes if you’re in a walk-up
We used professional movers because we didn’t want to bother our friends on a weekday. Within 2 weeks, we packed our stuff in the following order:
- Electronics (although we did the AppleTV and chargers last)
- Fragile artwork/ornamental
- Bathroom stuff (save some soap and makeup)
- Bedding (we used some of this for stuffing fragile stuff)
- (1 week before) Clothes that you won’t wear that week
- (day before) Last minute clothes, bathroom, and food into plastic bags
Make sure you give yourself enough time to move. It’s not an easy task unless you’re just throwing everything out and starting new.
Essential items to buy/borrow:
- Boxes (we did 3 wardrobe, 3 large, 5 medium, 5 small, and 3 random storage boxes)
- Packaging tape (3-4 roles is useful)
- Box cutter – super useful!
- Sharp scissors – super useful!
- Newspaper – for stuffing boxes
- 35+ Quart and Gallon ziplock bags – we used this for bathroom and electronics stuff
Tips for Staying Organized with Your Packing
- Look for boxes in your building recycling or post in your neighborhood board (or from work, liquor store, or Starbucks)
- (If you didn’t find them) Buy wardrobe boxes for moving clothes on hangers – it’s worth the price because it was definitely more convenient
- Spreadsheet your boxes – number, content, and fragile (y/n)
- Label your boxes – put numbers on them and do checks to make sure all boxes are accounted for
- Place your boxes so it’s convenient for a move
- Large items in the front
- Fragile boxes in the back
- Move some of your clothes that you’re not wearing out first
- Do a walk through of the apartment
- Use your clothing and towels to stuff some of the fragile items (keep in mind that they’ll smell like cardboard and get dirty)
- Color code your boxes (if you’re feeling neurotic)
- The heavier or more fragile the item; the smaller the box
- Do the box test
- Lift to make sure it’s not too heavy
- If it’s fragile, shake the box to see if you hear movement. If you do, then stuff it with newspaper or other things
- Avoid tangled necklaces with straws
- Contact the post office for your change of address a week ahead of time since it usually takes 5 business days
- Check other things you get in the mail (e.g. newspaper subscriptions, credit card statements, etc)
- Have a separate carry-on or luggage for your most valuable items (e.g. expensive jewelry, passport, important docs, etc). You should not let anyone carry this except you or give even better, give it to a trusted friend to hold onto until after the move.
Moving In Day-Of
- Make sure you have someone watch your pet for the day (because Henry gets scared)
- Keep a box for your Day-Of Go-To bag that you keep separate so you don’t need to completely unpack everything for the first week of moving in
- Bring extra tote backs for last minute items
- Once you have the key, make sure someone is at the new place to help people with arranging the boxes in the right areas
- Provide movers and friends with the details/directions to the new place (remember to ask about parking)
- Have cash for tipping your movers or bring beer/pizza for your family/friends
- Create Phases for the move so you take care of the essentials first
- Take your time to get new furniture and fill in those gaps
~See Lemons and Nessa Moved
Random Observation/Comment #538: If you never stop dreaming and planning new and exciting things with the people you love, each year will hopefully be the best year of your life. It’s another year growing closer and forming unbreakable bonds.
When you’re doing a year-end review, there’s a mandatory road down facebook/instagram lane where you almost instantly relive your life through photos. While these photos may not be the best composed (or even taken by me), these are the favorite ones that made my year.
~See Lemons Say Hello to 2016
Random Observation/Comment #537: 67 blogposts in a year is pretty darn good. Maybe these lists of 30 are just an easier format.
Every year, I read through all my blogposts and find the top ones that describe my year the best.
~See Lemons Love 2015
Random Observation/Comment #536: I have 1 more year until I’m 30 and so many more things to do on my list. Each year has been the year I wish could last forever.
In 2015, I:
- Traveled to: Vancouver/Whistler (TEDactive), Florida (to ask for her hand in marriage), Japan, Hong Kong (Viv’s wedding), Phuket, Bali, Sag Harbor (MiniMoon), Austin
- Triumphantly: Got engaged (using a modified version of my life in lists of 30), helped plan a wedding in 5 months and got married!, Published My Life in Lists of 30, Shot 4 weddings, attended TEDActive (and TEDxGondala), helped organize TEDxBushwick, presented in blockchain panels and coursework, presented career advice to Carnegie Mellon, saw a RoboShow in Tokyo, rode an elephant, became Blockchain Technical Lead for Credit Suisse.
- Ate/Drank: amazing brisket and general BBQ in Austin, authentic Thai curry, Street pad thai, Balinese street boxes with chicken and rice, incredible Loco Moco in Phuket, Huge drinks in Hong Kong, Japadog from Vancouver, Sushi burrito
- Read/Listened to: The Girl on the Train (Paula Hawkins), 1Q84 (Haruki Murakami), Old Man’s War (John Scalzi), The Ghost Brigades (John Scalzi), Grey (E L James), Ready Player One (Ernest Cline), Tomorrowland (Steven Kotler), As You Wish (Rob Reiner), The Last Colony (John Scalzi), Hard Magic (Larry Correia), Spellbound (Larry Correia), Brooklyn (Colm Toibin), A lot of podcasts! (Hello from the Magic Tavern, Mortified, Lore, The Adventure Zone, Seth Godin’s Startup School, The Art of Charm, Serial, Your Best Just Got Better, How to Do Everything, Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me), Bob’s Burgers Live Reading,
- Completed: another jigsaw puzzle, presentation at TEDactive, 12 studio photography headshot sessions, question of the day (#Qotd), Started tripadvisor reviewing, Continued yelping (yelp elite 2015), physical crosswords during morning commute, Covered 40+ events for CS, started Actions of the Day (#AofD), wrote over 500 blogposts!
2015 was the year I took the big plunge. We planned a wedding within 5 months, and oh man was it a fun night to remember. My memory isn’t the best, but I will always remember how she looked walking down the aisle. 2015 also marks a bit of an end to an era of traveling. I know there will be fewer bear travels, but 20 countries in 4 years is one hell of a ride. I sense there will still be at least one trip a year as vacations permit, but the expenses are certainly going to start skyrocketing. In terms of career, this was the year I found a new spark of passion for working on fun POCs. I feel like I work at a start up within a corporate innovation environment, and it’s such a huge learning experience.
In 2016, I’m looking forward to:
- Travels: Bermuda weekend trip, Honeymoon in Turks and Caicos, weddings in Florida, save time for an Indian wedding at some point. I think we’ll have fewer travels in 2016 due to the higher costs of living and focus on career
- Challenges: Writing “Our Life in Lists of 30” with Vinessa, Further build out a Blockchain Working Group and complete more Blockchain POCs, move into a one bedroom, Complete my 30 under 30.
- Adolescent Career: I’ve established a great foundation within the company and looking forward to taking more risks and delivering more value. This is definitely the buy or bust year for blockchain in financial institutions.
~See Lemons Love 2015 and Look forward to 2016
Random Observation/Comment #522 : Sleepy time is one of my favorite times.
A lack of sleep is devastating to all aspects of life. How do you get through the day when you’re physically exhausted? Besides heavy caffeine dosage, you’re probably going to want a few naps throughout the day and hopes that sleeping earlier will “make up for yesterday” (it almost never does).
Instead of constantly catching up, improve your systems and keep a healthy sleep hygiene.
- Keep consistent sleep times and patterns
- Try to go to bed at around the same time each night to synchronize your internal clock
- Get 7-9 hours of sleep per night
- Keep your bed for sleeping only
- Do not bring screens to the bed
- Set a curfew for using devices overall
- If you don’t fall asleep within 20 minutes, go to another room until you get tired again
- Avoid going to bed on a full stomach (give 2 hours to digest to also prevent acid reflux)
- Avoid going to bed hungry (it’ll bug you all night)
- Avoid naps in the evening
- Get some sun during the day so it helps you sleep better at night
- Some experts recommend working out in the morning rather than at night to keep the energy going for the rest of the day
- Create a relaxing sleep and bedtime routine – I like to stretch for 2 minutes before sleeping and cuddle with a large body pillow
- Remove things in the bedroom that distract you from sleeping
- This one is tough: try not to go to bed drunk. You may fall asleep faster first, but you’ll probably wake up in the middle of the night feeling thirsty or hung over
- Don’t talk about emotionally upsetting topics while in bed
- Try not to listen to music with lyrics too close to bed
- Don’t bring your problems to bed
- Change your sheets and pillow cases often so you get that fresh smell before going to bed
- If you’re sniffling and sneezing from allergies, take an antihistamine
- If this works for you, get a white noise machine so you stop paying attention to all the little sounds around the world while you’re trying to rest
- Even if you can take a nap with music playing, it’s recommended to have a quieter sleep environment so you don’t get disrupted by different beats or familiar lyrics
- Make your room as dark as possible
- Change your bedroom so it only makes you sleepy – associate it with sleepy time
- Know what temperature you love sleeping in. I personally like it cold with a warm blanket (and then half way through the night I kick off all the blankets anyway)
- Make sure you have a quality mattress that matches your personal preference to firmness and bounce
- Wear the same pajama clothes that make you feel sleepy. Change into them right before you go to bed or make it a part of that cooling down routine.
- Get the right pillow. I just bought one that has this cooling foam on one side and it’s amazing.
- Convince your sleeping partner to follow the same rules
- Make sure the Henry cat doesn’t wake you up at 5:30AM by nuzzling in your ear and batting your hair
~See Lemons Sleep
Random Observation/Comment #521: Enjoy the little things – the details are what make life unique.
Happiness comes in little doses. If you see it, stop whatever you’re doing and commit it to memory. Store it in that happiness cache and bring it up whenever you need it.
- A genuinely selfless deed
- A hug that lasts a little bit longer
- A look from your fiance that you know means she/he loves you
- A random high five
- A clever quip or pun (I see what you did there)
- A nod of understanding from students
- An obscure reference you understand online
- A father teaching his son how to read
- A son swelling his father with pride
- An amazing set of table tennis rallies
- A compiled piece of code with no errors
- An old song comes on and you know all the lyrics somehow
- A long inhale of fresh air when out in nature
- A smell of a home-cooked thanksgiving dinner
- A message from an old friend
- Anything handwritten addressed to me that’s not solicitation
- A sense of appreciation of your work from a complete stranger
- A toast between friends to celebrate the special moments
- A look of sedated happiness from friends who ate your home cooked meal
- A smell of the ocean and heat of the beach
- A soft purr and nuzzle from your favorite pet
- A surprise gesture of friendship
- A feeling of exhaustion after pushing yourself further on a workout
- A shared inside joke said just at the right time
- A really good laugh about seemingly nothing at all
- A feeling of productivity by 5pm
- A playful squeeze while holding hands and walking in the park
- A helping hand that relieves stress and burden
- A helping ear that heard your final complaint about work and doesn’t think differently of you
- A glance at your fiance sleeping in the morning
The interesting thing about this list is that most of it has almost nothing to do with personal accomplishments and everything to do with other people’s appreciation and observing such a bond forming. Maybe that’s the meaning of life – fortifying bonds to bring us all closer together in harmony.
~See Lemons Love the Little Things